Jun 09 2009
Is there something wrong with having an age preference?
Is there something wrong with having an age preference?
“I am a 20 year old guy. When I think about my future wife, or even about people I would like to date, I just can’t really see myself with someone old than I am. I also do not want to date someone who is too much younger than me. I have set an age limit for myself on who I will allow myself to date. I will date someone up to 2 years younger than me, for example anyone who’s birthday is between the dates of June 1, 1987 – May 31, 1989. If I meet a girl and she is not within that age gap then I will not allow myself to consider dating her. I am not sure if this will change in time, but I do not that I am standing very firm to this decision right now. I do not like the thought of dating someone within those years if their birthday is after mine in the same year.
Do you think that it is wrong for me to have this age limit when looking for someone to date?”
I think that it will make things a lot more stressful or even harder for you to find someone to date. However, if that is what you are comfortable with, then that is your call to make. I just think that you are limiting yourself from finding someone who really blends well with you, but you are a young guy so you will probably be dating for a few years, and that age limit will probably change or even disappear. Your focus will then just be finding someone who fits with you perfectly.
To me it sounds a little bit weird, whenever I have met someone new I never asked their date of birth before considering if I would like to date them or not. I think age is for the most part unimportant in a relationship. Obviously if you are from two different generations then it may make it hard to have a good, healthy relationship because you may view life very differently, that however is what some people like to have in their relationships as well. No one can tell you what is right or wrong for you! Only you can say who you want to date! Good luck!
