Jun 16 2009
I want to break up with my fiancé, how should I do it?
I want to break up with my fiancé, how should I do it?
“I am engaged to a very emotional man. Anytime I ever mention the two of us breaking up he always starts to cry. He is not exactly a pansy kind of guy because he doesn’t get all mushy gushy when I try to find out why he is crying, actually he becomes very defensive and angry when I ask him why he is crying. For the last year we have been living with my parents, but I think that we are just too young to be together for the rest of our lives. He is 18 years old and I am 17, I am not sure anymore that I am ready to commit my life to this guy. What do I do so that I can actually break up with him? Whenever he gets emotional it makes me feel so badly that I just back down from it.”
I think that you should just go with the so called “band-aid method”. Just make it a clean break. Tell him why you are not happy in the relationship and why you think that you two would both be better separate. It will be very hard since you live with your parents so you cannot just leave and allow him time, you will have to just do it as forward and quick as possible and help him to pack up and move out. Maybe you should even talk to your parents first to see if they will help him to move out, so that you can tell him well we are just going to help you move out now so that we can make a clean break and neither of us has to have a messy and mean break up. Good luck, and remember if you feel bad when he cries you really are only making it worse because you are leading him to believe that you are happy and want to be with him, when in reality you are not.
