Jun 18 2009
How do you know when to date, or not to date?
To date, or not to date?
“Here I will try to sum of the last year of my dating… A few months ago I got out of a really rocky relationship with a very emotionally unstable guy. He was also bipolar which was extremely hard on me as well because he did not do anything to try to control or take care of his condition. I feel really hard for a different guy who ended up moving out of the state right after I feel for him!
I am pretty sure that the guy who moved was long enough ago, that I am already over him. I am the kind of person who tries to take relationships very seriously and to not make them just some casual thing. I really want a relationship that will last forever. I recently met a guy though some friends of mine, and he really seems like a great guy, as well as someone that I can be serious with. The real issue is that his last serious relationship was also with a pretty unstable person. We find it hard to forget the crazy traits of our ex’s and be comfortable in a new relationship, but I also wonder if we should try dating or if I should just move on?”
Why wouldn’t you take the chance? Every chance is always worth it. You always learn a lesson, and learn how to love better in the end. I say you cannot let your fears run your life! However, I am still a bit confused as to why you do not think that you should date in the first place, because you both have dramatic exes, or some baggage? Who doesn’t have some kind of baggage? Even if they don’t have “crazy ex baggage” they could have family or emotional baggage of their own.
I personally always say that love is always worth it, as well as heartache is. I have been in some pretty unstable relationships, but I know now that I couldn’t love my boyfriend in the healthy proud honorable way that I do now, if I didn’t learn all those lessons about heartache in the past! When you meet the one and fall deeply in love, you totally forget all the pain or bad emotions about the exes if you haven’t already. So love away, just remember if you do commit to another person that means you can no longer live your life selfishly!
