Tina’s Supplied Honesty

“Speak when you’re angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”

Lawrence J Peter

I am sure that we have all learned this for ourselves at some point in life. It is one of those things that we hear and then you think, ‘well thanks for telling me now’! It is also one of those things that our parents could’ve told us a million times but we needed to make that mistake ourselves to learn the full lesson. Just like those other pesky life lessons we must have like heart brake, responsibility, personal drive and ambition. No one can ever fully explain why these things are so important to someone who has not experienced them, at least not to a point where you never have questions or doubt about what you are told. I have always believed that the best way to raise a child is to allow them the ability to make their own mistakes. You can explain why something is wrong until your blue in the face, but until one experiences it for themselves they will never understand the full repercussions or lessons for an action.

When you are angry and retaliate in the moment, you will end up saying things that you regret. Sometimes it may not be as extreme as others, but that does not always matter either! One thing I think everyone fails to understand is that it is so hard to erase others words from your memory once they have been said. Yes, apologizing is a very nice gesture and sometimes it really can help to fix things, however, other times it is almost impossible to forget what has been said. When you are very angry and you tell someone something intentionally to hurt them then you run the risk of never having that person as part of a healthy relationship in your life again!

When you are angry there is so many things that you can do to help to fix the situation without making it worse. (more…)