Tina’s Supplied Honesty

“I have been dating this guy for a few months. We are not exceptionally close, but I thought that we had a pretty good connection and bond for the short time that we have been dating. I really think that I may love this guy! Lately there has just been quite a change in everything though. We do not get to see each other that often so I was very excited when he said that we would make plans to see each other a few nights ago. Then he tells me that he won’t be able to make it on time because he had to do some things with his brother. I tried to be nice about that because it is his family and he did say that he would still see me just later. Then he ends up completely ditching out on me for his friends! Since then he has hardly talked to me, and just seems to have even less time for me than he did before. I feel like I need to talk to him about it because if not then we are just going to stay stuck in this spot until we brake up from all the fighting. I just don’t know what to say to him so that he can even find the time to talk to me. I have even thought that maybe if I just cheated on him I would teach him a lesson to appreciate me more. I just do not think that I can cheat on him because I really love him!”

Well I think the first thing to say is that if your guy is not respecting you in the way that you feel you deserve then you need to make that known! I strongly believe that others treat you the way that you allow them to treat you! Of course you will always experience that jerk stranger who is will yell at you no matter what you do. Or that one person who you know just has no clue how to treat others with common decency. But when it comes to those people you choose to have in your life and close to you, they treat you the way that you allow them too. You don’t need to become overly dramatic or rude when you think someone isn’t treating you fairly. Just find the way that works best for you to explain that you think that they are not showing you the respect you feel you deserve as well as the respect you show them! You can’t demand respect from someone that you do not respect! Treat others as you want to be treated! Now that that little rant is over with, I shall get back to your current situation.

If your guy is choosing not to talk to you or spend time with you, why do you think that this is love? Also if you are even considering on betraying his trust so much as to cheat, why do you think you love him? I know that break ups can be very hard to deal with, not to mention scary to initiate, but sometimes they really are for the best. If you do not see each other, do not speak to each other, and do not have fun together then really what is the point in being together?

Have you ever tried to look at from his point of view? You do not say why you are not able to see each other often, but if it is because he is a busy guy then why do you think that you should get time over his friends? I completely understand that a man who goes back on his word is NEVER a good kind of guy to have in your life. However, have you tried to be relaxed and understanding? If he wants to see his friends a certain night for a specific reason do you get upset and start a fight or are you kind and understanding? Guy time is extremely important for males. If you try to come through and end his guy time then he will not be choosing you over guy time ever! Remember you are not the only one to think about when you are in a relationship, and if you think he is being too selfish then it is time to hit the road!