Jul 24 2009
My boyfriend pased away, now his crooked family wants everything!
My boyfriend passed away 10 days ago?
“I feel like for the most part I am getting through this fine, I have mostly good days, but they do have their down moments. Overall I feel as though I am so full of love that I am not completely ruined by his death. I feel him and his presence around me, I am mostly thankful because I know that he knew how much I love him, and I knew he loved me. We spent 7 years together and moved in together around 5 years ago. His death was so unexpected, yet somehow I seem to manage just fine knowing that there wasn’t anything he was denied in life! I put him onto a pedestal and treated him amazing! He always did the same for me, he loved me so much! The hardest part I think is noticing that there will never be a future with him. He was my priority, making our life together was our priority, that is now all gone and I cannot have it back. I do not have any of the same dreams any longer. We were supposed to get married and get rich together, we were well on our way for two people who are 24 years old, and we had a very good life and a lot of things. He worked so hard to help us get everything that we have he would work two jobs then tell me it was all for me!
So here is when the drama comes into play… I am supposed to give his crooked family his social security number. They knew that I would have it, and they also know that we share bills with each other. I do not want to give the information to them because I know that they may do some crooked sh*t with it, and I would really hate to see that affect my mortgage. I also want to try to see if I can get any help from the state because we lived together for 5 years and I would need his social security number to get those benefits! I am just the girlfriend and I am curious as if I really would have to give his family his social security number so that they can get a death certificate.
I still need to take all the steps to try to contact all of the companies to notify them of his death because I figured they would not do anything without a death certificate anyways. I did find out that his family is making money off of his death though! What a horrible family! I do not trust them with his social security number, we have a credit card together and I can only imagine what they’d do with it! All I am trying to do is survive because I only work part time and go to school at NHS which is a prestigious school of course! His family first told me that they had $6,000 to bury him, then suddenly now it went down to $3,000. These mf’s have left my poor boyfriend in the morgue for want of money! I feel so conned, angry and sad. My boyfriend is supposed to be resting in peace but now he is being cremated so his family can steal his extra $3,000.”
You are just a girl friend. Therefore, you have NO RIGHTS, especially none that go above his family! That is your own fault, combining bills with a man without getting married is a very risky thing! You have no right to go as far as you have with degrading and bad mouthing his family. You can be a rude jerk all you want and withhold his social security number. But I promise you his family has rights to everything, and you have rights to nothing! They will get the number with or without you!
You are not involved in everything that his family is doing, how dare you accuse them of wanting his money when you clearly say that is all that you are interested in right now. I understand that he took care of you, my boyfriend does the same. However, I know that if he was to die then I will loose everything in a legal stand point. Without filing paperwork even for a common law marriages then you do not get anything. You should not assume that you are entitled to everything that is his; you were in his life much less than his family, even if you were together for 5 years! Realize that something horrible did happen and now your whole life will change, and you will loose everything you had because it was his not yours through marriage! I understand this is a hard thing to go through, but I believe that if you were to work with his family not against them things would turn out much better for you! I think you have no idea what true love was, but obviously you did NOT feel it for this man!
