Aug
22
2009
What kind of person are you? Do you go through a horrible experience and learn a lesson grow from it and move forward, or do you take it to heart and let it allow you to make you bitter?
When your boyfriend cheats on you do you sit around and speak badly about men for years, if you ever even stop? Did you have that one girlfriend who betrayed you, then now you just have sworn off ever having a close gal pal again? When your brother did that really stupid thing in school and embarrassed you by telling your crush everything your diary said about your fantasy life together, did you disown your brother and never forgive him again? Do you just think that sometimes things should not be forgiven no matter what people do to redeem themselves? Does this sound like you? Are you one to hold a grudge for all time? Do you hold it against one specific person or do you hold it against anyone who may be anything like them?
Or are you the complete opposite? Are you the one friend that will always let everyone do whatever he or she wants whenever they want no matter how it affects you? Are you known as the friend who will always bend over backwards to do anything for everyone? Do you think that you are walked all over by your friends? Do you think that you are a push over?
Or, do you see yourself as the one in the middle, the one who knows where to draw the line on both sides of the spectrum? Do you think that you know when it is time to let go of your friends, but you also know how to pick your battles and when to just back down? Do you get angry, but know how to understand that people are human and mistakes are made? Do you think that there is always a way to get over things without giving in?
Which kind of person are you, have you always been this way? Have you noticed a change in your reactions to others has changed, as you got older? Do you have tips on the way you think is best? Steps to get from one extreme to the middle of the road? Do you even think people should try to be in the middle of the road?
Aug
20
2009
Touch of the hand. What does it mean to you?
So we all have saw that moment on TV or in movies when two people are kind of feeling each other then they have that moment where their hands touch, time freezes and they star longingly into the others eyes. In real life nothing ever last’s that long, but that still is a moment that seems to change relationships between people. When you are really into a girl and she purposely touches your hand don’t you look at her with the most approving smile full of your gittiness? When you are handing a guy you like something and he makes a point for his hand to touch yours doesn’t your heart skip a beat, then you look at him for that is this real reassurance?
I was watching TV the other day and realized how many times this is how simple of an action it takes to take two people to the next level. That simple quite moment where nothing is actually said, but the eye contact speaks volumes! It is like for those two people time really does stop for a few moments. (more…)
Aug
12
2009
Music therapy… does it really exist? Do you believe in it? When you are really angry, frustrated, sad or excited do you turn to certain music to intensify or fix those moods? Do you have designated playlist on your MP3 player you rely on for those certain days?!
Have you ever gone through a traumatic experience in your life and thought that music was a very large part in getting you through the situation? Have you ever felt that you felt emotions so deeply and no one around you could understand what you were going through? What did you turn to then; did you then turn to music? Have you ever been riding in your car during rush hour on your way home with so much stress and anxiety, then that new song comes on the radio and it picks up your spirits? Did you just get into a fight with your boyfriend and that song comes on that you swear is wrote exactly about this very situation that you went through?! When you have just got into a fight with your best friend and she says that one thing that can cut you so deep, do you ever want to just blast your radio and sign your heart out until you feel all the stress is gone? When you are really stressed out can music help you to relax? (more…)
Aug
07
2009
I just got done ready many different complaints and forums about people who feel that they have been betrayed or that another person has been betrayed. It has become very clear to me that most people do not truly understand what betrayal is…
Betrayal is not being punished for your poor decisions, or bad actions! Betrayal is not typical life happening and you just not wanting to deal. Betrayal is many things, but it is not repercussions for your bad actions! Karma people, it is something that you believe it!
These are the definitions for betrayal from www.dictionary.com ;
• “to deliver or expose to an enemy by treachery or disloyalty”
• “to be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining, or fulfilling”
• “to reveal or disclose in violation of confidence”
• “to reveal unconsciously”
• “to deceive, misguide, or corrupt”
• “to seduce and desert”
That being said, stop running around crying because you did something to betray another person, or company and now must deal with the consequences for your actions. If you are the one who talks behind your friends back for years, then finally she gets tired of hearing about it and ends the friendship, you are the betrayer not her! If you cheat on your spouse, and they can’t forgive you, you only have yourself to blame! If you violate a contract or terms of service and are then let go from the company, you are at fault, all they did was stand by their word! (more…)
Aug
06
2009
The betrayal of friends, or so called friends should we say? In most cases true friends will never do anything that makes you feel as though you have been betrayed. However, if you overly sensitive and the self absorbed kind of friend do not assume that because you feel betrayed you have a right to retaliate.
Haven’t we all been betrayed by a friend at some point throughout our lives? Some probably have been betrayed much more than just once as well. What are all the ways that friends can betray us? Are you one of those people who think of your close friends as family? If you answered yes to that then friends can honestly be quite deadly to you! If you are betrayed by a person that you believe you’re so connected with that you look at them as family it creates a very big personal battle within yourself.
I am sure that we all have felt betrayed or left out in the cold by our family at some point. How do we get over that? We just kind force ourselves to don’t we? We have to think about how everyone says family is most important, and you always need to stand by them. What about when your friend does it? Isn’t it a bit harder to convince yourself to forgive them? Even if we may say they are like family, in reality they are not our family. Does that make it harder to forgive them? Or does it make it easier to shut them out?
I am definitely one of those people who viewed my long term friends as family; I believe that this is a fault that I may have still to this day. Whenever I am betrayed by a person I get hurt, mad, sad, cry, vent argue my side, but in reality when I feel our friendship is falling apart I will give into what I believe quickly to preserve my friendships. I still do not know if this is the best way to approach the situation. (more…)
Aug
04
2009
How can a spouse betray you, oh lets count the ways… Okay, maybe not there are way to many different ways that they can betray you, and it also varies depending upon your relationship. I know that if my spouse was to do something I could find it as betrayal, while you make think it is natural human behavior, or just him be a guy, as so many LOVE to say!
The big question is how to deal with a spouse’s betrayal. This can vary quite a bit depending upon the level of betrayal. There are always different levels of betrayal because you cannot generalize all actions into one. (more…)
Aug
02
2009
I have been noticing a lot of people asking about how to deal with betrayal. The odd thing is that they do not specify who is betraying them, or what they did to betray them. I have decided to make this into a topic to discuss all week. There are so many different ways that you can be betrayed, or people who can betray you. You can be betrayed by friends, family, coworkers, spouses, and sometimes even strangers! This is way too many different options to try to discuss in one post!
One question I always find myself asking is “Where is the line between unconditional love, and becoming a fool?” I still am not sure that I know where that line is. (more…)
