Tina’s Supplied Honesty

What is the hardest part of a relationship?

When I asked this question to readers, friends, and family I got pretty much all of the same general answers. The hardest part of a relationship always goes back to combining the two lives into one while still feeling secure enough, as well as still feeling like your own person.
I know that in my relationship it is the battle between staying independent while growing together. I am more dependent upon my spouse now than I ever have been on anyone since I was a young child. It is scary to know that if this one person decided to change their mind, you could lose your whole world as you have made it. It is not that I think my guy is going to up and tell me get out I want everything, but I am a person who likes to know what my future holds, and leaving it even partly in anothers hands is scary.

A reader said that her biggest issue with her 15 year marriage was that “Sometimes I feel we don’t have separate lives. I feel that our lives commingle so close that I lose my sense of self.” How does she deal with this? She does it in a very responsible and appreciative manner, “At the end of the day I am truly happy, so why change anything?” If you always appreciate what you have, then you always have a chance! (more…)

Do you know how to move forward after a break up with grace and dignity?

Recently I was out of town and in a town with limited cable channels. I was stuck watching once again MTV’s True Life. It happened to be about people’s who marriages were on the rocks, forgive me but I cannot remember the exact title of the show. Anyhow, one of the females on the shows completely shocked me. I have heard, and saw some insane things done by scorned ex-girlfriends who feel so betrayed by their ex’s but this lady took the cake!

They were having typical relationship issues, both want to take it all and no one wants to compromise any longer. The husband was not living at home at the beginning of the show, then during the show he decided to move back home to give everything one last try. They had a big blow out fight and he decided to move out again. He decided to take the big screen TV out of the family room, and this set the wife off. She poured water into the TV that was outside in the truck. Then while repeating “you try to be nice” over and over again she goes and gets a bottle of bleach and pours it all over her husband’s clothes. She then proceeds to throw things and him while taunting him to throw something back. The next time you see her she is saying how she is not sorry for what she has done, and that she doesn’t understand why her husband is so mad over what was done. Now I really hope that all of you know, this is not a mature way to deal with a break up!

Do you know how to deal with a break up while keeping your cool and being mature? I know at some point we all lose our cool a little bit, but I think my craziest moment would probably be a few too many calls to an ex in high school. Definitely nothing near a crime on the misdemeanor level! It takes time to get over a spouse, and when you are not sure it is what you want you have plenty of insane thoughts go through your head. Whatever may cross your mind, it is your actions that really count in the end.

If you can always remember to take a minute to stop and think things through before acting, then typically you would make it through a break up just fine. Another safety measure to try is appointing a girl friend to be your buffer. Whenever you want to text or call the ex, go through her first. If she still hasn’t convinced you it isn’t a great idea then go for it, but brace yourself for all the problems that will follow afterward. The fights, the rekindled painful emotions, and of course all of the tears! That is when you then go back to that trusty friend and she will help you pick up the pieces all over again. (more…)

So I have talked about how to know when you have found that special person to spend your life with. I also mentioned that it can be the one for now, instead of the one for all time. I do truly believe that we are meant to spend our lives with one person. I would love to believe that I would never have to go through a divorce or that I would never have to lose the man I currently love. I do know that I have felt similar to this before as well, but it was not for all time.

People come into our lives to help us through situations and moments of time. Sometimes we are lucky enough to grow at the same rate of those people so they are always in our lives. Other times life runs its course at a different rate for different people and you grow apart. I think that if two people truly care you can always make any relationship work, but sometimes we get so tired that giving up and starting over seems so much easier. (more…)

Recently I had a fellow blogger, and reader of mine who suggested that I write about how to know when you have found ‘the one’. If you read my blogs a few weeks ago you will see the questions that I was asking anyone to answer about how they knew. I will be randomly posting others stories and answers when I continue to receive them. Here are the key elements that I think tell you when you have found the one, or at least the one for right now.

I have been told many times that I have commitment issues. I do not believe that I have commitment issues, but I do think I have trust issues as well as reality. I have watched many relationships, and people grow and change over time. Sometimes the one that is right for you for a part of your life, may not be the one for you for all time. I think that nothing is wrong with that! We need people close to us and by our sides to help get us through different phases of our lives!
I think that the key to knowing if your spouse is ‘the one’, for either now or for all time, is pretty simple.

Do they make you laugh? Do they make your heart skip a beat? Do you desire to be around them? These are all key things in making sure that you can last the long run. You must be able to stand your spouse if they are the one. (more…)

 So here it is, the big fantastic exciting new start week!

It is time to celebrate all the work, and everything that is to come! 

I am sorry for my lack of writings lately, but I am hoping for all of that to turn around quite quickly! I have really taken time to brainstorm and think about the direction of this blog. I really want to be much more enjoyable, as well as being helpful to all. I want to cover topics that all of my readers are interested in. That being said email me (teenskee@gmail.com) with anything you would like to see covered on Tina’s Supplied Honesty!

I hope you are ready for what is to come! There is going to be a lot of exciting fun things down our road! Okay, maybe it won’t be all fun and roses but that is only because relationships are not! I hope you enjoy what is to come! I welcome any opinions, good and bad alike.

How much of a diva are you? I am sure if you are a past reader of mine you have noticed that lately I have not been around much lately. I have not had a whole of time to work on any of my writing due to family issues, and being quite ill. In the last two weeks I have been doing some severe catch up reading, and researching. I have noticed that my most common emotion lately is irritation. I pride myself in being able to take myself out of a situation and see both sides. I usually can blow things off pretty easily by seeing that not everyone acts and thinks like me. Lately I seem to be getting much more fed up, or I have been getting way to many experiences. I really hope that lately it is just that I am experiencing so much more unneeded melodrama, and not that I am losing my kind touch or reality check appeal.

I seem to be noticing myself saying “Really?! Are you kidding me?! Is this for real?!” a lot more often than I would like. I understand that others cannot handle all situations like I do personally, and I know that wishing more did is one of my biggest faults! I sometimes just don’t get why things are not so common sense to everyone, and that is wrong of me. However, lately it seems like everyone has been on this thought process of “you must worship me, I rule all!”

I read the help forums and it is just constant complaining and bitching about everything! Why is it so hard to understand that you do not rule the world? Companies do not change their policies and practices just because you are a bit hurt over them choosing to do things differently. In most cases it is those same people who have been taking the easy way out, and now it is time that they must really start working to get what they think they deserve. I do not want to point out any one person, or specific situation at this moment rather just get all of you out there thinking. I know that it is pretty common sense to say I should not expect everything to be handed to me. Yet still it seems like people are only saying that when they know they are being watched by others. (more…)