Nov 01 2009
Should a partner complete you?
So it seems as though some of my best ideas for topics to talk about come while being miserable in bed with a migraine. I think that this comes into play because it is usually during a time when there is some marathon of a reality show on that I would normally never watch. Today while trying to read and get small things done while trying to aid my migraine I spend some time listening to a marathon of VH1’s For the Love of Ray J. I do not see very much of the show or even pay attention to very much of it. However, one thing that really caught my attention on the show as that they were faulting a girl often and very openly because she said that she did feel that she needed a man to feel complete.
I find this extremely interesting for a few reasons. One reason this is so shocking to me is because this is a show where people are searching for love. Another is because they say that this makes her a weak woman.
Okay, my first is if you are on a show searching for love isn’t that because you think something is missing from your life?! I know that I have very different and old school thoughts on what love and a relationship should be about. I think that you should only be in a relationship in you are looking for a partner in life. I do understand that big time career couples do not always feel the same way, but I just don’t see the point in finding love and making a like together if it isn’t to be TOGETHER!
My second question is why is it that being able to combine your life with another human and compromise with them to make a perfect bond into one makes you a weak person? Anyone can be selfish, anyone can do whatever it takes to make their own dreams come true and to reach their own goals. Isn’t the real test if you can do that with another person? Isn’t the real test if you can make a relationship work with complete compromise between two people? Isn’t it harder and more work to make your life work with another’s life?
Do you think that feeling as though a partner in life will complete you is a weakness?
Huh, good question.
Not weakness, not a sign of inability to work alone or be independent. I think feeling incomplete without a man, and completed by “the” man are two different things. And when a girl realizes that not just anyone will do, and she makes the decision to stop settling for mr.right-now and only mr. right, then she is a strong woman indeed.