Tina’s Supplied Honesty

I have been noticing a lot of people asking about how to deal with betrayal. The odd thing is that they do not specify who is betraying them, or what they did to betray them. I have decided to make this into a topic to discuss all week. There are so many different ways that you can be betrayed, or people who can betray you. You can be betrayed by friends, family, coworkers, spouses, and sometimes even strangers! This is way too many different options to try to discuss in one post!

One question I always find myself asking is “Where is the line between unconditional love, and becoming a fool?” I still am not sure that I know where that line is. (more…)

As I sit at home fighting my awful cold, and cuddling with my pup as he recovers from his “being fixed’ surgery yesterday I was thinking about all of the things that I can blog about today. Suddenly it hit me, why not just think about all the great lazy days! I know I am always the one who says how you must take risks, run out into that world and try everything! There is always a time that you need to stop sit at home with junk food and girlfriends, or sometimes just cuddling with your spouse. It is quite the gloomy day here today! It has been raining off and on all week and if you know anything about Colorado you know that our weather changes every 5 minutes. So sometimes our fully gloomy days just need to be embraced by a good old fashioned lazy day!

I have noticed that over the years my reactions to lazy days have changed. I remember in high school gloomy days were the days I wanted to go to the mall and all that kind of indoors stuff, because of course on hot days you must go to the mountains or do something to enjoy this AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFUL state! Then on snowy days you usually got stuck inside because your car was not that nice which in the Colorado snow equals stranded and freezing times! Then as I got into the real working world those were days I wanted to call in and have a girl’s day, or a game day, just be home and lazy with people I love! What is your perfect gloomy or lazy day?!

Gloomy days are used to reconnect to yourself and your loved ones I think! I really think that lazy days are so important to remember to love ourselves and keeping ourselves in a good mindset. We have to remember to let our stresses go sometimes and just take some good time for relaxation!

Don’t forget to stop and smell the roses, or enjoy the cold weather with the ones you warms your heart and you inside! I wish you all a perfect gloomy day in the near future! Stock up on your favorite junk food, rent some great chick flicks, and call in for the day! Gloomy days refuel the soul, and reconnect hearts!

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”

Dalai Lama XIV

This seems to be one thing that is easily forgotten by people these days! Lately I have started to notice how many people seem to think that they are so entitled to everything. I have always been reminded my whole life that I was raised much different than most people! My boyfriend and I often have issues, because I rarely think that I deserve anything special! I am often told that I put too much on myself, or that I expect unrealistic expectations. I just know that when I grew up I was taught that you work hard! No matter what you do you work as hard as you possibly can at every situation! You work very hard at everything you do, so that you can get happiness in knowing everything that you do is done the right way!

When you stop feeling that you are entitled you start working a lot harder, which I truly believe makes you a much happier person. You have to choose your own destiny, I do believe in karma and fait. Some people think those things are nowhere near similar to each other. I beg to differ; I think that they are one big intertwined together and a big ball of pressure to be the best that you can be! Ha Ha, the good kind of pressure though! The kind that forces you to be the best kind of you that you can be!

Don’t you ever run into that person that always is mean, grumpy, and unhappy and yet still always think that every luxury in the world should be handed to them? Aren’t they just annoying?! I know the people that I love to be around are the ones that encourage you to be a better person. I think that people need a reality check. We all need to realize that their actions really do determine what happens in their life. It is not just some horrible twist of “bad luck” or everyone else’s fault like they claim!

What do you think? Do you think that happiness is expected and not worked for?

“Dream as if you have forever. Live as if you only have today.”

James Dean

I would say that this is my main struggle that I am going through right now. I start to dream then stop to ask if that is really realistic. Are all of your dreams supposed to be realistic? Aren’t you supposed to reach for the stars?

When you’re very young you are told over and over by the vast majority of people that you need to reach for the stars, or to do whatever it takes to make your dreams to come true. Then when you go to school they humor those thoughts for a little bit, then one day you hit high school and suddenly you are constantly told to be more realistic! This reminds me of a great comedy skit by Eddie Izzard in his “Dress to Kill” movie. In his skit he is told to keep changing his career dreams because he is shooting too high, or as he says in his skit he needs to “scale it down a bit”.

Then when you get to college everyone starts acting like then did when you were a kid again. They give you this long list of all the majors and careers that you can pick anything that you think would be great and go to school for it then do it for the rest of your life! Very rarely will you meet a counselor or advisor who will say, “Um nope I don’t think that this is the right major for you”.

So I say always have HUGE OVER THE TOP DREAMS! Just be sure to keep yourself in a reality check by making a plan to get to those dreams. Also always make sure that you do have a back up plan. That does not mean that you don’t believe in yourself, or that your dreams are too far fetched, it just means you are being careful while reaching for the stars! Putting yourself into debt or into an unsafe situation while going for your dreams has never helped anyone to reach their goals! So while dreaming big for your forever time that you have, live each day to the fullest. Don’t put your life on hold until you reach those goals! Enjoy everyday of your adventure!

What kind of person are you? Would you pick a real live roller coaster at an amusement park or just opt for the Sim’s City computer animated version? 

I recently read a discussion question on a forum that I visit lately. It was someone from America explaining a horrific train accident that occurred in another country. They said that when the train wrecked it caused a lot of fear and ruckus. She also explained that many people were hurt and some were even killed. The member then proceeded to ask all other members if they would allow the fear of what could happen to force them into staying inside their homes at all times. If there were any people out there who would just stay home in efforts to try to ensure their safety. The one thing that really got me about all of this is that when explaining the crash, she stated that the accident was right in the middle of a community where people lived, which is what made it such a horrific accident! I personally do not understand the lock yourself inside the house to stay safe way of living!

I would never let the “what ifs” of the world stop me from doing anything that can bring me pleasure. If you look hard enough at every situation you can always find a negative in it! I work very hard to try to live my life in a positive life. I am not naive and do not ignore realistic fears, but to me natural disasters, or accidents are not worth ending the enjoyment or fun in my life.

Whenever I hear people say well what if you get into an accident while making a long car trip, or what if you hurt yourself it kind of makes me chuckle. I then smile and kindly remind them that you can fall down the stairs in your house and break your back, you can slip on a wet kitchen floor and get a concussion, you can walk across the street to check your mail and be hit by your neighbor, you can walk your dog and be mugged, and most importantly… anything is possible! If you may get hurt wouldn’t you rather have an AWESOME story to tell about how you were hurt? (more…)

“We do not see things as they are; we see things as we are.”

Talmud

Have you had that sort of realization moment in your life yet? I know that I have had quite a few! I think that it is very important to know that you do go through phases in your life! One day one situation may cause you to cry, while another day it may make you feel empowered and strong willed. The older that you get and the more you experience the more your responses change to typical situations.

When you were 14 and your parents grounded you retaliated by yelling or pouting or slamming doors. Now you obviously cannot be grounded, but if your boss tells you that you are on probation for whatever reason you respond much different, however, it is a lot like being grounded isn’t it? You are being punished for a decision you made by someone with a higher rank than yourself. When you get older you just learn that acting certain ways is just not acceptable. I know that sometimes certain people seem like they never get that common sense or common decency part of their maturity, I don’t really know how to how that happens. (more…)

“Speak when you’re angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”

Lawrence J Peter

I am sure that we have all learned this for ourselves at some point in life. It is one of those things that we hear and then you think, ‘well thanks for telling me now’! It is also one of those things that our parents could’ve told us a million times but we needed to make that mistake ourselves to learn the full lesson. Just like those other pesky life lessons we must have like heart brake, responsibility, personal drive and ambition. No one can ever fully explain why these things are so important to someone who has not experienced them, at least not to a point where you never have questions or doubt about what you are told. I have always believed that the best way to raise a child is to allow them the ability to make their own mistakes. You can explain why something is wrong until your blue in the face, but until one experiences it for themselves they will never understand the full repercussions or lessons for an action.

When you are angry and retaliate in the moment, you will end up saying things that you regret. Sometimes it may not be as extreme as others, but that does not always matter either! One thing I think everyone fails to understand is that it is so hard to erase others words from your memory once they have been said. Yes, apologizing is a very nice gesture and sometimes it really can help to fix things, however, other times it is almost impossible to forget what has been said. When you are very angry and you tell someone something intentionally to hurt them then you run the risk of never having that person as part of a healthy relationship in your life again!

When you are angry there is so many things that you can do to help to fix the situation without making it worse. (more…)

I mostly wanted to write a quick short post saying that I am sorry for the lack of new posts. It has been a very busy past three weeks. I helped my mother move, as well as moving myself, and taking a short mini vacation with my father’s family. I was trying to stay ahead of myself and having plenty of posts done so that I could just post my thoughts quickly, reply to your emails and comments then get back to helping everyone adjust. I did seem to get behind though and starting tomorrow that will no long be the case! I will be back up to posting on a daily basis! I really appreciate all of your understanding!!

Of course, my supplied honesty could not go a week without having plenty to say, so I will try to sum up the big issue’s I have thought of. Between my obsession with crime shows, my book about a school shooting, and spending time with my father who’s work is very dangerous and yet they still had a freak horrific accident I really feel the need to say something about appreciation again! You never know how much time anyone in this world has, I try my best to stay away from any remarks that have to do with religion, but I truly believe that when it is your time to meet your maker that is just the time your life just must end. There is no way around it, you cannot choose the way or the time. I do think that one thing we fail to forget it the way that another’s death can really affect us! You may never meet a guy, but when you hear the way he suffered in war, or in efforts to help another human survive it will make you feel something inside! You may not even get close to a friend’s relative but when they pass it brings up so many memories about your own family! Most importantly if you are living your life in your regular day to day routine and god forbid something terrible happens and you cause another physical pain or even death, you never really think about how that could affect you. I have known many people who have got too tried, too lazy to drunk and made a mistake that ruined many people’s lives. I know sometimes you work overtime or babysat extra kids and feel more exhausted than normal so you try to take some shortcuts to make things easier on yourself. Just remember what consequences you may have to face for the rest of your life if you do take those short cuts. If you know you are too tried to drive, call a friend to pick you up or take a quick nap. There is always a safer option! Also ALWAYS trust your instinct. I have horrible night vision, driving at night for me outside of the city can just make me very worried at times. I always listen to that slight fear or intuition, it helps me to be more careful and ensure my safety! Listen to yours too; our bodies can sense things we tend to overlook out of fear of seeming paranoid. Also, remember no matter how upset you may be with another person, whatever you say may really end up be the last words you will ever say pick them carefully!

“A wise man never knows all, only fools know everything.”

African Proverb 

Doesn’t this just remind you of that one person who really annoys you because they will argue with you about anything? They are so extreme they will even argue that the sky is purple instead of blue. Do you actively seek out that you do not act like or resemble one of those kinds of people? I know that this is probably my biggest fault that I have. When I know I am right about something I always used to ‘fight to the death’ so to speak. I do not think I know everything, but when I thought that I was right I did not like taking a back seat and being told that I was wrong.

I can think back over the last ten years, and see how much I have changed, but also how much more I could continue to change! I know that I need to realize that the more you listen the more you really do learn! Someday, I hope that I will perfect this!

The next time that you feel you are really arguing to get your point across why don’t you make a conscious effort to stop, and really listen to what their point is. You never know you may realize that you are saying the same things, but in different ways, or maybe you will learn something more about the topic! Heck, it may even just help you perfect your points for the next time that you talk to someone about it! Also, remember when you are trying to get your point across, you don’t have to argue be mean or rude to be heard. When you speak with calmness, intelligence, concern for others, and eager to teach then you are someone others will want to listen to, as well as someone whose words they will trust.

Always remember, listening is one of the most important and one of the most forgotten abilities of people.