Aug
07
2009
I just got done ready many different complaints and forums about people who feel that they have been betrayed or that another person has been betrayed. It has become very clear to me that most people do not truly understand what betrayal is…
Betrayal is not being punished for your poor decisions, or bad actions! Betrayal is not typical life happening and you just not wanting to deal. Betrayal is many things, but it is not repercussions for your bad actions! Karma people, it is something that you believe it!
These are the definitions for betrayal from www.dictionary.com ;
• “to deliver or expose to an enemy by treachery or disloyalty”
• “to be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining, or fulfilling”
• “to reveal or disclose in violation of confidence”
• “to reveal unconsciously”
• “to deceive, misguide, or corrupt”
• “to seduce and desert”
That being said, stop running around crying because you did something to betray another person, or company and now must deal with the consequences for your actions. If you are the one who talks behind your friends back for years, then finally she gets tired of hearing about it and ends the friendship, you are the betrayer not her! If you cheat on your spouse, and they can’t forgive you, you only have yourself to blame! If you violate a contract or terms of service and are then let go from the company, you are at fault, all they did was stand by their word! (more…)
Aug
06
2009
The betrayal of friends, or so called friends should we say? In most cases true friends will never do anything that makes you feel as though you have been betrayed. However, if you overly sensitive and the self absorbed kind of friend do not assume that because you feel betrayed you have a right to retaliate.
Haven’t we all been betrayed by a friend at some point throughout our lives? Some probably have been betrayed much more than just once as well. What are all the ways that friends can betray us? Are you one of those people who think of your close friends as family? If you answered yes to that then friends can honestly be quite deadly to you! If you are betrayed by a person that you believe you’re so connected with that you look at them as family it creates a very big personal battle within yourself.
I am sure that we all have felt betrayed or left out in the cold by our family at some point. How do we get over that? We just kind force ourselves to don’t we? We have to think about how everyone says family is most important, and you always need to stand by them. What about when your friend does it? Isn’t it a bit harder to convince yourself to forgive them? Even if we may say they are like family, in reality they are not our family. Does that make it harder to forgive them? Or does it make it easier to shut them out?
I am definitely one of those people who viewed my long term friends as family; I believe that this is a fault that I may have still to this day. Whenever I am betrayed by a person I get hurt, mad, sad, cry, vent argue my side, but in reality when I feel our friendship is falling apart I will give into what I believe quickly to preserve my friendships. I still do not know if this is the best way to approach the situation. (more…)
Jun
06
2009
I have a complicated situation…
“I feel like I am in a complicated situation right now. I am friends with two sisters, one sister is a year older than me, and one is a year younger than me. I am really interested in being more than friends with the older one. Sometimes she can be so distant though so I get the feeling that she is interested in being more than friends. Her younger sister is really making moves, and acting as though she doesn’t want to only be my friend any longer. I don’t know if I should take my chance at dating the younger one. Would it ruin my friendships with either of them if I was to date one of the girls? I am thinking about dating the younger sister even though I still have more of an interest in the older sister. What is the best way to handle these feelings without ruining any of my friendships?”
Well if the older sister is not interested in you, then she won’t care if you were to date her younger sister. However, if you were to date the older sister when you know that her little sister likes you it will hurt the younger one, and will most likely ruin your friendship with her. It is very risky and scary to mess with sisters. (more…)
May
16
2009
“Our sorrows and wounds are healed only when we touch them with compassion.”
Buddha
I have never heard this quote before, but I really do like it. I really think that the best way to live your life is learning from your mistakes, as well as others mistakes and using compassion when learning those lessons. As I have said before I think that if you show compassion then you are able to help improve someone’s day. You do not have to go out of your way for them and you still may make a very big difference in their day.
Yesterday my boyfriend and I had a disagreement because he kept asking me “What if you were not able to help improve another person’s life?” (more…)
May
14
2009
I’m curious to know what you think of this?
“How do you think that you would handle this situation? What if you just found out that your younger sibling a person who was 15 years old than them? To top that off what if the person that they were now dating was married and two children? Then finding out that the person your sibling is now dating is your recent ex, and you only found out from another sibling.
This happened to a girl that I know. Her sister is not a very good person, and I know this because I have known her for quite some time. I just had obviously under estimated the level of disgust that this girl would go to. I feel really bad for the girl that I know because she is a very kind good person. I couldn’t imagine my sibling doing something like that to me. I have also heard that the sister does not even care about the guy and that she is just sleeping with him because he is the only guy that will show interest in her. She has a reputation with all of our guy friends for being easy or being used for sex.” (more…)
May
04
2009
“One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.”
Rita Mae Brown
Boy, isn’t this the truth?! The people that I know who hold grudges are also the unhappy people in my life. I often hear from people, “Why would you forget what others did to you, doesn’t that make you a fool?” I personally feel the exact opposite! Being so closed minded that you cannot forgive someone from being a human and making a mistake is not right. Everyone makes mistakes, haven’t you made a few of your own? Some were probably pretty big too weren’t they?
Just yesterday I was having a talk with my boyfriend about a friend from the past. My boyfriend and I have been friends from my freshman year of high school on. We have had the same group of friends for the last 9 years. He was friends with a guy for 13 years then after a while his friend started to have real issues with being jealous of them growing apart. There were a lot of things that were said and done that ended up ending their friendship. We happened to have run into him over a year ago at a bar, but no attempt to reconnect was made just a hello and goodbye kind of situation. Within the last few months they happened to run into each other again. His friend seems to really want to reconnect and try the friendship again. Of course my first reaction was scared because this guy has caused our relationship a lot of problems in the past, but after thinking about it I know how much I miss my high school best friend! It is a bond that is hard to find again. My boyfriend was saying that he isn’t really returning his friends effort at making the friendship again because he did do mean spiteful things, and what if it was to happen again. I told him this quote and he didn’t really respond. I think it is because it is something that we all know, but our fears just kind of keep us from believing. (more…)
