Tina’s Supplied Honesty

After writing a post on another blog about Taylor Swift’s skit on Saturday Night Live poking fun at the ultra famous moment with Kanye West, I realized that the post may be better for this blog instead. After watching the hilarious video I started to think about what it really means to create your own legacy, and started wondering if people really realized when they were creating their legacy. When you are a celebrity we all know that most actions are carefully planned so that you do can try to avoid as much bad publicity as possible, otherwise one decision really can ruin your entire career. However, it is very clear that Kanye was not thinking through all aspects of his decision to ruin Taylor Swift’s acceptance speech at the MTV Video Music Awards a few months back. Yes, many say that he did it for publicity, but I beg to differ. I believe that this was just another typical Kanye west temper tantrum that has ruined his career.

With all of that being said, I do not think that most people really take the time to think about the long term memory of their decisions! Yes of course we take the time to think about the consequences of our decisions, but do we think this could end up being my legacy? Long after I am gone when my name comes up this will be what people remember me for! (more…)

I have been working on a few blog segments on addiction for this blog and another that I have. I think that addiction is one of the worst diseases in our country and it is also one of the most opinionated and over looked ones! People like to always find someone to blame when addiction comes into the picture. It had become almost as taboo to talk about as AID’s used to be when people thought it was god punishing gays. On one blog that I used to be a big part of my tag line was always “some take the phrase ‘ignorance is bliss’ a bit too seriously!” I still believe this. I think that people assume they know many things and you know what they say about assuming “it only makes an a*s out of you and me!”

I am not a celebrity blogger nor will I ever be because I do not believe in exploiting humans to make a quick buck. There is nothing funny about degrading someone who is better than you because you are jealous or bitter. Of course I think most celebrities take what they have for granted and others think that they are owed the world when really they just need a good dose of reality. I just do not think that poking fun at others just because they have talent in a form that I do not is really my kind of a good time. Don’t get me wrong; I have my opinions and everyone who does idiotic things often will be poked fun at by me at some point. I always say it is not the mistakes you make that make you the person you are, it is the way that you respond and learn from those mistakes that make you who you are. If you never learn, then quite frankly you are beyond ignorance and are just plain dense or stupid! Anywho, back to my point for this whole post…
I think that DJ AM’s death is something that should be talked about and mentioned to many! I know that you all have your opinions, and because he did do drugs or isn’t against tattoos and piercings you think that he is not a good person. I don’t really care what ignorant thought process got you there but let’s look at some facts. Yes, he went down the wrong path and was into drugs for awhile. Yes, he has a rough hard past that you never want your children to experience. And most importantly, YES he changed his ENTIRE life around and for the last 11 and a half years he spent his life doing everything within his power to help others with their deadly disease of addiction! He even created his own reality show on MTV that was very similar to Intervention and The Cleaner on A&E. In clips of the show that they are using to honor DJ AM it says that he wanted to prove to one girl’s family how easy it was for her to get a crack pipe in their neighborhood so he walked up and bought one. He immediately realized how risky of a situation that was because his “hands started sweating and [he] started to freak out” as he explains. (more…)

I just got done ready many different complaints and forums about people who feel that they have been betrayed or that another person has been betrayed. It has become very clear to me that most people do not truly understand what betrayal is…

Betrayal is not being punished for your poor decisions, or bad actions! Betrayal is not typical life happening and you just not wanting to deal. Betrayal is many things, but it is not repercussions for your bad actions! Karma people, it is something that you believe it!

These are the definitions for betrayal from www.dictionary.com ;
• “to deliver or expose to an enemy by treachery or disloyalty”
• “to be unfaithful in guarding, maintaining, or fulfilling”
• “to reveal or disclose in violation of confidence”
• “to reveal unconsciously”
• “to deceive, misguide, or corrupt”
• “to seduce and desert”

That being said, stop running around crying because you did something to betray another person, or company and now must deal with the consequences for your actions. If you are the one who talks behind your friends back for years, then finally she gets tired of hearing about it and ends the friendship, you are the betrayer not her! If you cheat on your spouse, and they can’t forgive you, you only have yourself to blame! If you violate a contract or terms of service and are then let go from the company, you are at fault, all they did was stand by their word! (more…)

The betrayal of friends, or so called friends should we say? In most cases true friends will never do anything that makes you feel as though you have been betrayed. However, if you overly sensitive and the self absorbed kind of friend do not assume that because you feel betrayed you have a right to retaliate.

Haven’t we all been betrayed by a friend at some point throughout our lives? Some probably have been betrayed much more than just once as well. What are all the ways that friends can betray us? Are you one of those people who think of your close friends as family? If you answered yes to that then friends can honestly be quite deadly to you! If you are betrayed by a person that you believe you’re so connected with that you look at them as family it creates a very big personal battle within yourself.
I am sure that we all have felt betrayed or left out in the cold by our family at some point. How do we get over that? We just kind force ourselves to don’t we? We have to think about how everyone says family is most important, and you always need to stand by them. What about when your friend does it? Isn’t it a bit harder to convince yourself to forgive them? Even if we may say they are like family, in reality they are not our family. Does that make it harder to forgive them? Or does it make it easier to shut them out?

I am definitely one of those people who viewed my long term friends as family; I believe that this is a fault that I may have still to this day. Whenever I am betrayed by a person I get hurt, mad, sad, cry, vent argue my side, but in reality when I feel our friendship is falling apart I will give into what I believe quickly to preserve my friendships. I still do not know if this is the best way to approach the situation. (more…)

I have been noticing a lot of people asking about how to deal with betrayal. The odd thing is that they do not specify who is betraying them, or what they did to betray them. I have decided to make this into a topic to discuss all week. There are so many different ways that you can be betrayed, or people who can betray you. You can be betrayed by friends, family, coworkers, spouses, and sometimes even strangers! This is way too many different options to try to discuss in one post!

One question I always find myself asking is “Where is the line between unconditional love, and becoming a fool?” I still am not sure that I know where that line is. (more…)

As I sit at home fighting my awful cold, and cuddling with my pup as he recovers from his “being fixed’ surgery yesterday I was thinking about all of the things that I can blog about today. Suddenly it hit me, why not just think about all the great lazy days! I know I am always the one who says how you must take risks, run out into that world and try everything! There is always a time that you need to stop sit at home with junk food and girlfriends, or sometimes just cuddling with your spouse. It is quite the gloomy day here today! It has been raining off and on all week and if you know anything about Colorado you know that our weather changes every 5 minutes. So sometimes our fully gloomy days just need to be embraced by a good old fashioned lazy day!

I have noticed that over the years my reactions to lazy days have changed. I remember in high school gloomy days were the days I wanted to go to the mall and all that kind of indoors stuff, because of course on hot days you must go to the mountains or do something to enjoy this AMAZINGLY BEAUTIFUL state! Then on snowy days you usually got stuck inside because your car was not that nice which in the Colorado snow equals stranded and freezing times! Then as I got into the real working world those were days I wanted to call in and have a girl’s day, or a game day, just be home and lazy with people I love! What is your perfect gloomy or lazy day?!

Gloomy days are used to reconnect to yourself and your loved ones I think! I really think that lazy days are so important to remember to love ourselves and keeping ourselves in a good mindset. We have to remember to let our stresses go sometimes and just take some good time for relaxation!

Don’t forget to stop and smell the roses, or enjoy the cold weather with the ones you warms your heart and you inside! I wish you all a perfect gloomy day in the near future! Stock up on your favorite junk food, rent some great chick flicks, and call in for the day! Gloomy days refuel the soul, and reconnect hearts!

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.”

Dalai Lama XIV

This seems to be one thing that is easily forgotten by people these days! Lately I have started to notice how many people seem to think that they are so entitled to everything. I have always been reminded my whole life that I was raised much different than most people! My boyfriend and I often have issues, because I rarely think that I deserve anything special! I am often told that I put too much on myself, or that I expect unrealistic expectations. I just know that when I grew up I was taught that you work hard! No matter what you do you work as hard as you possibly can at every situation! You work very hard at everything you do, so that you can get happiness in knowing everything that you do is done the right way!

When you stop feeling that you are entitled you start working a lot harder, which I truly believe makes you a much happier person. You have to choose your own destiny, I do believe in karma and fait. Some people think those things are nowhere near similar to each other. I beg to differ; I think that they are one big intertwined together and a big ball of pressure to be the best that you can be! Ha Ha, the good kind of pressure though! The kind that forces you to be the best kind of you that you can be!

Don’t you ever run into that person that always is mean, grumpy, and unhappy and yet still always think that every luxury in the world should be handed to them? Aren’t they just annoying?! I know the people that I love to be around are the ones that encourage you to be a better person. I think that people need a reality check. We all need to realize that their actions really do determine what happens in their life. It is not just some horrible twist of “bad luck” or everyone else’s fault like they claim!

What do you think? Do you think that happiness is expected and not worked for?

My boyfriend passed away 10 days ago?

“I feel like for the most part I am getting through this fine, I have mostly good days, but they do have their down moments. Overall I feel as though I am so full of love that I am not completely ruined by his death. I feel him and his presence around me, I am mostly thankful because I know that he knew how much I love him, and I knew he loved me. We spent 7 years together and moved in together around 5 years ago. His death was so unexpected, yet somehow I seem to manage just fine knowing that there wasn’t anything he was denied in life! I put him onto a pedestal and treated him amazing! He always did the same for me, he loved me so much! The hardest part I think is noticing that there will never be a future with him. He was my priority, making our life together was our priority, that is now all gone and I cannot have it back. I do not have any of the same dreams any longer. We were supposed to get married and get rich together, we were well on our way for two people who are 24 years old, and we had a very good life and a lot of things. He worked so hard to help us get everything that we have he would work two jobs then tell me it was all for me!

So here is when the drama comes into play… I am supposed to give his crooked family his social security number. They knew that I would have it, and they also know that we share bills with each other. I do not want to give the information to them because I know that they may do some crooked sh*t with it, and I would really hate to see that affect my mortgage. I also want to try to see if I can get any help from the state because we lived together for 5 years and I would need his social security number to get those benefits! I am just the girlfriend and I am curious as if I really would have to give his family his social security number so that they can get a death certificate. (more…)

Do you ever just have those moments where you feel like no matter whom you speak to, there really is not anyone there really listening to you? I heard this song today while doing my daily ritual of blasting music while getting ready, I heard this song and it just reminded me of so many different situations it could relate to! It seems like something that could really fit everyone at some point in their life.

I know that there are many times in my life where I just felt like No one would listen, and I wished just one person would really understand what I was trying to say! Because of how often I know I have felt that way I have put a lot of effort on a regular basis to trying to be the best listener that I could possibly be, however, we all know that sometimes we just get so preoccupied that we don’t really know how to be great listeners all the time. That was a large point of this blog actually, when you try to talk to people about your personal life it because a very scary road. Usually you already know them and are already vested in them somehow as they are invested in your life, that generally makes people very biased and unable to see both sides of the picture! It is also very hard for most humans to stand beside you when you didn’t do what they thought you should’ve done.

How many people in your life told you to do something a certain way “because I am older I know what is right, and you do not!” then you do what you feel is best and they throw all the nonstop ‘I told you so’ comments you can ever imagine in your face? Those are people who are really listening are they? Aren’t those people who just heard your words but never listened to the feelings behind them? I know that it is hard to find a common ground with people, I understand that when you are vested within a situation it seems so hard to member to take a step back and look at the bigger picture! I hope to be able to remind even just one of you to do that for someone who you know needs it right now!

This world is a crazy place right now, so many things have changed in the last few years and some people just do not understand how to deal with it, some people just need someone to listen to what their feeling and tell them it is okay to be confused or unsure sometimes! No one is perfect; it is your imperfections that make you a beautiful person! Anyone can claim perfection; it is much harder to claim your faults! I will do all that I can to try to listen to anyone who needs it! 

“Dream as if you have forever. Live as if you only have today.”

James Dean

I would say that this is my main struggle that I am going through right now. I start to dream then stop to ask if that is really realistic. Are all of your dreams supposed to be realistic? Aren’t you supposed to reach for the stars?

When you’re very young you are told over and over by the vast majority of people that you need to reach for the stars, or to do whatever it takes to make your dreams to come true. Then when you go to school they humor those thoughts for a little bit, then one day you hit high school and suddenly you are constantly told to be more realistic! This reminds me of a great comedy skit by Eddie Izzard in his “Dress to Kill” movie. In his skit he is told to keep changing his career dreams because he is shooting too high, or as he says in his skit he needs to “scale it down a bit”.

Then when you get to college everyone starts acting like then did when you were a kid again. They give you this long list of all the majors and careers that you can pick anything that you think would be great and go to school for it then do it for the rest of your life! Very rarely will you meet a counselor or advisor who will say, “Um nope I don’t think that this is the right major for you”.

So I say always have HUGE OVER THE TOP DREAMS! Just be sure to keep yourself in a reality check by making a plan to get to those dreams. Also always make sure that you do have a back up plan. That does not mean that you don’t believe in yourself, or that your dreams are too far fetched, it just means you are being careful while reaching for the stars! Putting yourself into debt or into an unsafe situation while going for your dreams has never helped anyone to reach their goals! So while dreaming big for your forever time that you have, live each day to the fullest. Don’t put your life on hold until you reach those goals! Enjoy everyday of your adventure!