Tina’s Supplied Honesty

“I am 23 years old and I have been dating my boyfriend for the last two years. I know that we are still very much in love, but we also have had our set of problems.

One of the problems that we have is that his best friend is a very close friend of mine as well. I confide in him often and awhile back while we were having a heart to heart it was admitted that we both found the other very attractive, however, we both agreed that nothing would ever come of those feelings because pursing anything is wrong even if I was no longer with my boyfriend. He is how we met each other after all, so it just would never be right.

The last year since that heart to heart we seem to spend a lot of time together, some may even say that we are inseparable, and we have been flirting a lot. I trust that it is only flirting, but that attraction is still there and it is pretty strong. On my end I think it is becoming much more than a physical attraction. I get very jealous when he does go out on dates. I know that my feelings are slowly getting stronger for him and crossing the friendly friendship flirting boundaries. How do I stop the feelings for him, but keep the friendship there and just as strong as it is now?”

Okay first I have to start by saying; you are not “very much in love”! When you are in love you only have eyes and “strong feelings” for one person.

As for the best friend, no there is nothing you can do to suddenly end your attraction to him. The safest and best thing to do is obviously going to be not keeping him in all of your life. To me it sounds like you may be having an emotional affair with this guy, you want him so involved in your life because of the emotional connection you have with each other. I think that if you really want things to work with your man, you will have to cut this other guy out so that you give all of yourself to your man again, if you feel that is possible.

I personally think that you need to end your relationship with your boyfriend! You are already past a friendship level with this other man, and that is not okay or right to do to your boyfriend! It also proves that you are not being fulfilled by your boyfriend. Be fair to everyone involved and just end the love triangle now, you will all be happier when you can be single and live without guilty, or when you are with someone who truly fulfills you!